Oh how interesting
Look at the date. April Fools!!!
British E-100 when Gajules?
After you buy the gold card pack.
I still refuse to believe it’s real
Time for a PSA educational post about a word people on the forum use to demean others.
TL;DR:
Don’t accuse others of being delusional.
Tell others their feelings matter.
Tell others they’re equal to you.
Don’t statshame.
Tell others when you’ve edited a post to correct mistakes you made, and tell others they should always be honest with you in a PG manner.
Gaslighting, with examples at the end.
First source material:
I acknowledge to others I have discussions with that they and I are equals, and more often these days I also say their perspectives and opinions are valid because they are.
Gaslighting, as described in the video is making others feel less than yourself, invalidating your feelings, making you question your self [not your knowledge; but questioning your self, the you that you are; example later], never taking responsibility for actions, anxiety is nuanced as in the video it describes this anxiety as specifically causing one to walk on eggshells [not say things you would say around others].
Now, onto some examples. They are in the spoiler.
Spoiler
The questioning of oneself:
Accusing others of being delusional, insane, or otherwise wrong in a matter that brings up their psyche or level of self is gaslighting.
In further detail of questioning one’s self, the primary example underlying questioning involves this:
If someone comes to you and says the methods you used to come to your conclusions are inherent to your self and accuse that of being wrong to the extent of dismissing your views on everything, that is gaslighting.
Many people on the forum feel like others don’t treat them with respect, the basis of this conclusion for me is the false-accusations of gaslighting.
I’ve made an effort to go out of my way to make sure to tell others their methods and experience matters, is valid, and their opinions are valuable. This keeps many people whom have been abused by others know that at least I take them seriously and see their perspective as valid.
Making others feel small: An example of this is statshaming, the act of bringing up peoples’ stats to dismiss their perspectives as being less than your own.
Easy example.
Invalidation of feelings: This is most commonly done in face-to-face, in text people can’t predict what the other party is feeling.
However, an example in text form is people just outright saying your feelings on the matter are irrelevant.
I personally attempt to tell people that their feelings are valid whenever I remember to, because in text conversation it is difficult for others to know that the other party is treating their feelings with validity and respect.
Never taking responsibility: In text form this is people saying they’ve done no wrong, simple example.
I personally make attempts to tell others when I’ve made mistakes.
Every edited post is me taking responsibility for the errors of those posts, and do more to make sure that I tell people I’ve edited posts before or after doing so due to the mistakes I personally made typing up that post.
This makes people understand you’re acknowledging your mistakes as people would prefer to be told from yourself that you made a mistake than interpret your actions as you acknowledging your mistakes.
Last but not least: Eggshells.
Getting mad over someone mentioning their opinion and belittling them. Don’t do this.
What I attempt to do now when someone’s statement upsets me is I’ll address the specific part that upsets me and request that they provide feedback in a less aggressive manner while explicitly telling them I appreciate the feedback to my behavior and posts.
Tell others their feedback matters.
Thank you to everyone that watched the video. If my post has errors, do not hesitate to address those errors in a PG manner.
I hope everyone that did learn something from this will use this knowledge for kindness in the future, and not hostility.
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You’re delusional if you think imma read allat.
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Now I can tell you’ve read all of it cause your post has two examples in it. ;)
Funny post.
There’s a joke I heard recently:
How many gears to Italian tanks have?
Four, three reverse and one forward. One more thing. The forward gear is there in case the enemy flanks them.
More jokes:
So, it’s 1941 and a young German boy is listening to the radio. On the radio Hitler announces that Germany is declaring war on the United States.
The boy asks, “Father, where is the United States?”
“Here, let me show you,” His father responds and points at a map of North America.
The boy then asks, “We are at war with Russia too, right? Where’s that?”
The father then points at a map of the Soviet Union.
“I think we’re also at war with the British,” the boy says. “Where on the map are they?”
The father then points at the British isles and the numerous British colonies, dominions, and protectorates.
“And where are we, father?” The boy questions.
The father, starting to become annoyed by his son’s constant questioning, finds Central Europe and points out Germany.
The young boy processes what he has just been told for a moment.
“Father.”
“What now?” The father responds.
“I have one more question.”
“What is it?”
“Has Hitler seen this map?”
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A little joke:
A World War II pilot is reminiscing before school children about his days in the air force. “In 1942,” he says, "the situation was really tough.
The Germans had a very strong air force. I remember, " he continues, "one day I was protecting the bombers and suddenly, out of the clouds, these fokkers appeared. (At this point, several of the children giggle.) I looked up, and right above me was one of them.
I aimed at him and shot him down. They were swarming. I immediately realized that there was another fokker behind me."
At this instant the girls in the auditorium start to giggle and boys start to laugh. The teacher stands up and says, “I think I should point out that ‘Fokker’ was the name of the German-Dutch aircraft company”.
“That’s true,” says the pilot, “but these fokkers were flying Messerschmidts.”
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Would anyone recommend traveling for Duxford? I live in western USA, within driving distance of the Warhawk air museum, but I’m not sure how much better Duxford may be than that?
Is it worth the flight? I’m sure I would do other things while in England, but that would be my highlight I think
It’s a great museum, the only real issue is Duxford is a bit out of the way, from London taking the quickest route (presuming you don’t want to rent a car and grab a train) is about two hours forty minutes one way, so if you’re planning to base yourself in London for a bit (Which isn’t a terrible idea given the Science Museum (Free), Natural History Museum (Free), IWM London + HMS Belfast (Paid like IWM Duxford) & British Museum (Free)), you’d end up having to make a day out of it.
If you rent a car for a day or two though it shouldn’t be too terrible of a drive, takes about an hour to an hour forty to drive depending on traffic (from Heathrow, bit more from the centre of London due to traffic). Could probably do the Fleet Air Arm museum and the Tank Museum too if you don’t mind renting the car for a bit longer. (Both of which would require a bit of a complex route train wise). Defiantly don’t rent a car for London though, that’s just a waste of money.
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I have banned as many of the air DOMINATION maps as I am allowed. They make no sense. I don’t know what I will get before I enter and I need to upgrade my bomber so I enter the game and there isn’t a SINGLE BOMBING TARGET ANYWHERE!!! There is also an unmarked ceiling which, if you exceed by 1 foot, you are no longer gaining points. It can be a fun free for all in low-tier dogfights but I don’t have ANY lineups that are nothing but fighters AND I DON’T WANT ANY! I am sick of entering games with bombers which, if I want to keep playing, I have to hope (if I have gunners) I can do something before dieing and respawning. It’s especially infuriating because it seems like 90% of BR 2.0 and less is nothing but domination. I don’t want the drop my 500-lb and two 100-lb bombs literally ANYWHERE because they are literally nothing but deadweight.
How do you make a thread? I have tried, and once I finish it I am given a message that says a moderator will have to review it before it is posted. So I wait, and nothing happens. I am not told what happened to the thread, and it is removed from my activity page. What should I do? I have tried posting this one thread twice now, and I’m not sure if the moderators are shooting it down (it’s about EMP’s)
Edit: this is over the course of multiple days that I waited, I’m not just being impatient or something
Are you trying to make a suggestion post/thread?
Yeah, I am. (sorry for the response time, I took a nap)
I guess my real question is “What is happening to my topics?” I also get these notifications around the same time my post disappears from my activity page
There is nothing in there though, is the site bugged?
Your suggestion was most likely denied, so that might be the reason. If you want to know why it was denied, then feel free to PM a suggestion mod
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